I know I’m in no position to speak about this and I literally know nothing, but this is a thought that gets triggered whenever I’m around a baby. I grew up hearing from everyone that you shouldn’t rush to hold a baby when they ask for it, because it might spoil them. They’d get used to being held, that they might always want to continue being held after. And it sounds disturbing to me; how someone can willingly decide to take away the warmth of being held and loved, so someone else wouldn’t...get used to feeling safe and loved? I feel like it then grows with us, and later on in life we somehow stop being there for them in fear that they’d get too dependent. We stop being gentle, in fear that it won’t be preparing them to deal with the world outside. And so on and so forth. We stop so many things in fear that their abundance would only lead them to always want too much. And while it might be true, I just don’t get why is it always about the good, kinder qualities? Why are we rarely ever concerned about how our stiffness and lack of expressing love, can get them used to that, too? Why do we only choose to mess with the things that might leave a void inside if they were left unmet? Again, I know very little about raising kids, and maybe my future self will have something else to say about this. But today I was thinking that, for now, if someone I love ever expresses a need for affection, I know I’d want to go all the extra miles to allow them to feel it, if I could. Even if it means they might get used to it. Even if it means it’ll spoil them. So be it.